EEERRRRRR record player stopping .... to me that was like nails on a chalk board ... "we don't talk about _____" that is something that is sacrilege to me! To me, we talk about EVERYTHING.
I explained to my sweet hubby that although he may be uncomfortable sharing his feelings, it's really important to allow our children to talk about their ideas and feelings and of course guide them into more proper outlets. He says he understands that, but this came out of left field (guy analogy) and he wasn't ready for this type of conversation. So again, he has hopes that these sort of "heavy discussions" will come up planned. But we did more processing and I let him know that most definitely these things will always be coming "out of left field". He says from his statement "we don't talk about dying" Emma just laughed and said "Well Leo's Papa died. He was really old and sometimes old people die very fast. Leo won't see his papa anymore". So there you go, the little 3 year old social worker in progress! She helped Daddy along and they had a very nice conversation, "far too adult" according to Rob but for me it shows that though Rob and I have differences in our comfort levels (especially around communicating) our children are going to get the best of both worlds and are really comfortable sharing their feelings.
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ReplyDeleteWew I really fell off the blog wagon for a second there, but am so glad to be back. I just took a little packing break to read all about Emma and the "dying" conversation. Ah....the things kids say, but it really is interesting to see what different perspectives we adults have from the kids. As we get older, we are so much more invested on manylevels and of course the idea of people we love dying is just unthinkable or should we just uncomfortable. Sometimes the little ones make things so clear. They are like three foot realists! We all will die one day, but heck if us big people want to admit that or think about it. That is a great blog. Thanks for sharing. Emma is too cute.